How We Learn Culture


One of the more philosophical takeaways I had after we left the park was the idea of food as an important cultural icebreaker.  There was a long stretch of food trucks and vendors at the festival selling Iranian cuisine, Mediterranean food, and American summer classics like ice cream and beer.  The smells from the food trucks were enticing, and likely drew in passers by who had simply been exercising or passing through the park.  Because there was a good variety of cuisine being offered, and because the vendors were so nice, people felt comfortable to try something new.  I also suspect that once they got their food, they also walked around the festival to the dance floor, children’s area, or cultural tents.  Having been “lured” in by the delicious food, they stayed and learned about the culture. 
I like to think of food as a way to allow people do dip their toes into the cultural waters, so to speak.  Perhaps a passerby has a negative view of Iranians and has no desire to learn about their culture and history because of his preconceived notions.  Trying the food and realizing it is actually delicious might be a way to warm that person up to the possibility of learning more.  
I also thought a lot about how we learn about culture.  My husband and I purchased two ice cream treats as refreshment towards the end of the afternoon.  One was a rose water flavored ice cream, and the other was saffron pistachio flavored.  While the saffron pistachio flavor was so foreign to our tongues we did not know how to process it, we found that the rose water flavor tasted like a Korean rice drink called shik-hye.  We remarked over and over again how much the two foods tasted alike and I realized that one of the ways we process new cultures is by finding a point of comparison between the unknown and something with which we are familiar.  My husband did it again when we started to notice the Persian family groups sitting in the shaded area of the park.  “It’s just like Koreans,” he said. “We hate sitting in the direct sunlight.  We must be similar after all.”  In order for us to process the new cultural information we were gathering, we found ourselves comparing it to our own cultural experiences. 
Even a month later, I am still debating whether or not this is a good thing.  On one hand, it does allow us a way to more quickly understand a new concept, taste, or activity, and I do think this is useful.  If we can find a connection between what we know and something foreign to us, we might be more likely to accept this new thing rather than push it away.  However, on the other hand, I also believe that trying to draw comparisons in this way prevents us from fully experiencing the unknown.  In my personal life, I am constantly exposed to a culture about which I still have so much to learn.  In the beginning, I found myself constantly trying to make connections between my American upbringing and the Korean traditions and ideas my husband brought to our marriage.  However, at a certain point, I stopped trying to draw those lines and started to simply let these experiences happen to me without putting them in more familiar terms, and I believe this has led me to a more nuanced understanding and appreciation of this culture. 
A final lesson I took away from this experience was how easy it actually was for me to talk to strangers about culture.  Although it took me a while to work up the nerve to approach strangers at the festival and ask them for information, when I finally did find my courage, I found that people were actually very interested in speaking with me.  This led me to believe that I should not have been so worried about choosing the right cultural event, and that no matter where I go or what I do, people are likely to engage in conversation with me if I approach them from a place of respect and genuine interest.  This has been an important lesson to an introvert like me.